Lately, I’ve been struggling with patience when it comes to finding someone special.
I know we’re supposed to trust God’s timing, but some days, it’s really hard not to feel like I’m being left behind while everyone around me seems to be finding their person. I catch myself downloading dating apps and then deleting them, wondering if I’m trying to force something that should happen naturally.
Sometimes, I wonder if God has someone planned for me or if I’m misunderstanding what He wants for my life. The loneliness can be overwhelming, especially on Sunday mornings when I see all the couples at church. I try to stay busy with Bible study and volunteer work, but this emptiness still creeps in during quiet moments.
My mom keeps telling me to “give it to God,” and I’m trying, but I guess I’m looking for encouragement from others who might understand this struggle. Has anyone else felt this way, and how do you keep your faith strong when your heart feels weak?
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I totally understand what you’re going through, and trust me, you’re not alone in this struggle.
The waiting game can be tough, especially when everyone around you is finding their person. I’ve seen (sometimes the hard way) that God’s timing in relationships can really test our patience, but there’s usually a purpose in these seasons of waiting.
Something that’s helped me is remembering that it’s completely natural to want companionship - God designed us for connection, after all. When I’m feeling particularly impatient, I try to refocus on ensuring I’m aligned with God’s relationship principles. This means being intentional about boundaries and being honest with myself about finding someone who truly shares my faith and values. It’s saved me from a lot of potential heartbreak and spiritual conflicts.
The best way to handle the waiting is to really lean into living in the present.
Get involved in your church community, pursue hobbies that bring you joy, and invest in friendships. Sometimes, when I’m feeling lonely, I remember that this season of singleness is actually a unique opportunity to grow closer to God. Building that intimate relationship with Him first has been important for me - it helps guide me and prepare my heart for whatever (and whoever) He has planned.
When things get really tough, I turn to Matthew’s words about finding rest in Jesus.
He knows our weight, and I’ve discovered peace in learning to trust His timing, even when it’s hard. Your journey is unique to you, and while the path might feel unclear right now, keep holding onto your faith. It really does light the way through these challenging times.
I completely understand what you’re going through, and trust me, you’re not alone in this struggle. I’ve been there too, feeling that same mix of hope and heartache while trying to trust God’s timing. It’s especially tough seeing couples at church or scrolling through social media with all those relationship updates, right?
Your struggle with patience connects with me. I’ve learned that during these waiting seasons, it’s so important to lean deeper into our relationship with God, even when it feels like He’s silent on this particular prayer.
Focusing on God’s will for my life brings a peace that dating apps never could (and yes, I’ve done the download-delete cycle too!). When I look at what Scripture says about relationships, it’s helped me realize that it’s not just about finding another Christian, but someone whose heart truly beats for Christ.
I’ve been exactly where you are and discovered that when I finally stopped obsessing over finding ‘the one’ and focused on deepening my relationship with God instead, that’s when He brought the right person into my life. His timing truly is perfect, even when the waiting feels unbearable! Amen!
I’ve learned through my own path that when God says, ‘Be still and know that I am God’ (Psalm 46:10), He’s inviting us to trust His timing even when our hearts are aching for companionship.
Just like Abraham had to wait for God’s perfect timing for Isaac, these seasons of waiting aren’t wasted time; they’re precious moments where we can grow closer to Him and become the person He’s calling us to be.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart (Proverbs 3:5-6) When I stopped trying to control everything and focused on serving God, He brought unexpected blessings into my life, including my spouse who I met while we were both volunteering at our church’s youth ministry.
I’ve found such freedom in realizing there isn’t necessarily ‘the one’ person God has destined for us, but rather He gives us wisdom to choose someone who shares our values and helps us grow in faith.
This perspective helped me stop obsessing over finding the perfect match and instead focus on becoming the right person while trusting that God will guide me toward healthy relationships in His time.
Prayer in relationships isn’t just a quick ‘bless us’ moment.
It’s a path that requires real dedication and openness to change. God wants us to grow through the process, letting go of pride, healing old wounds, and being willing to see things differently. When we truly seek His guidance in relationships, we need to be ready for Him to transform both hearts. It’s not always easy, but that’s where the most profound blessings come from.
Genuine Christian relationships are about two people growing together in faith, not just seeking their own way.
While we all hope to find that special someone, we should remember that marriage isn’t promised to everyone in God’s Word. It’s natural to desire companionship, but our ultimate fulfillment comes through Christ, whether single or married.
The enemy loves to whisper sweet lies about ‘the one’ and perfect romantic endings, but we must be grounded in biblical truth. I see many believers getting caught in this trap of waiting for some divinely ordained soulmate while missing what Scripture actually teaches.
We’re in a spiritual battle where feelings and cultural myths can cloud our judgment. God gives us wisdom and discernment to make godly relationship choices, not fairy tale promises about predestined partners.
The Bible never actually promises everyone will find a spouse but we all seem to think that we are the exception and everything is promised.
What if God has designed a beautiful path for some of us that doesn’t include marriage? I know it’s hard when family and church friends expect everyone to pair up, but following God’s plan might mean embracing a fulfilling single life. His timeline isn’t always what we expect, but it’s always perfect.
Instead of just waiting around for my perfect match, I’m learning to be the best version of me someone who can share lots of hugs and kindness with my future special someone! <3
It’s like getting ready for the most amazing friendship ever, where I can be God’s little helper in making someone else’s life super duper happy!
Just as Jesus spoke of the mustard seed growing into a mighty tree, I found wisdom in nature’s patient rhythms. Like the parable of the sower, where some seeds sprouted quickly while others took time to bear fruit, each season revealed God’s perfect timing.
The fig tree teaches us not to force fruit before its time. I learned to trust the Lord’s timing, even when my heart yearned for faster growth. Scripture shows through the vineyard workers that each has their appointed hour, and there is divine purpose in every stage of our spiritual blooming.