I find it really disheartening how some Christians treat single moms in the dating world, acting like we’re somehow “damaged goods” or less worthy of finding love again. (And don’t even get me started on the judgmental comments about “poor life choices.”)
Look, I get that not everyone wants to date someone with kids, and that’s totally fine - preferences are preferences. But there’s a huge difference between having a dating preference and making someone feel like they’re spiritually inferior because they had children before fully embracing Christ’s path.
God’s grace is powerful enough to transform any life, and my journey to faith has made me an even better mother and potential partner. My past doesn’t define my future, and I’m grateful that God sees me as His beloved daughter, not as a collection of previous mistakes.
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I really feel you on this. I’ve seen firsthand how some people in Christian circles make assumptions about single moms that completely miss the point of what our faith is supposed to be about. It breaks my heart because it fundamentally misunderstands God’s transformative power.
I’ve realized that we’re all equals in God’s eyes, no matter what our past looks like. That’s the whole point of grace and redemption; it’s about where we’re headed, not where we’ve been. When I see someone trying to define a single mom by her past instead of recognizing her spiritual growth and renewal, it honestly feels like they’re undermining everything Christianity teaches us about being made new in Christ.
In the dating world, we need to remember that everyone’s journey is unique and deserves respect. People have preferences about who they want to date, and that’s fine. However, those preferences should be based on things that matter for building a future together, like shared faith, values, and commitment to following God, not on someone’s past circumstances.
The way I see it, single moms seeking companionship deserve the same respect and understanding as anyone else in our community. We’re called to uplift each other, not tear each other down based on where we’ve been. Your past has shaped you, but it doesn’t define your worth or your future in God’s plan.
Thank you, Jesus, for reminding us through this post that You chose a teenage unwed mother to bring our Savior into the world! Mary faced whispers and judgment, too, yet God saw her heart. Thank you, OP, for your courage in speaking up. Your children are blessed to have a mama who seeks Christ!
In some cultures, single moms were actually revered for their strength and resilience, often receiving community support rather than judgment. I thought there was a lot we could learn from these cultures about valuing the diverse paths people took and offering grace instead of casting stones.
Consider the story of Ruth, a widow and a foreigner, yet God wove her into the lineage of Jesus. Isn’t it marvelous how He redeems our stories? Instead of focusing on what society labels as ‘baggage’ let us celebrate the resilience and strength that comes from walking a unique path.
How can we better support and uplift single moms in our community?
Just my two cents here, but I’ve noticed Christian dating apps are the WORST for this guys literally filter out anyone with kids before even reading profiles! They’re missing out on some of the most resilient, faith-filled women out there.
Single mothers often find themselves on the frontlines of a spiritual battle, facing the enemy’s arrows of judgment when they must discern whether to allow new people into their children’s sacred fortress. But shouldn’t every parent stand as a warrior at the gates of their home, wielding the sword of discernment against any potential threat the devil might send, regardless of whether they fight alone or alongside a spouse?
The protection of our children is a holy battlefield where all parents must don the armor of God, using prayer as our shield and wisdom as our weapon against the forces of darkness that seek to infiltrate our homes.
You know what’s wild? Single parents get the weirdest comments, my single dad friend gets asked if he’s ‘babysitting’ his own kids, like bro, that’s called PARENTING! Makes me realize we’re all getting judged for the dumbest reasons: single moms for existing, single dads for actually showing up. Maybe if folks spent less time playing Judge Judy and more time reading Matthew 7:1, we’d all be better off. Besides, some of the strongest faith warriors I know are single parents who’ve learned to lean on God harder than anyone else!
It’s heartbreaking how quickly people assume single moms are just ‘living off the system’ or somehow morally inferior, when the truth is you’re warriors doing double duty while seeking God’s best for your family :praying_hands: 
Thank You Lord for showing us that children are a blessing, not a burden!
The way some brothers treat single mothers makes me question if they’ve forgotten Jesus welcomed ALL the little children. May God open hearts to see single moms as the prayer warriors and kingdom builders they truly are. Amen!
I’ve noticed how uncomfortable some people get at my nephew’s school events when they realize his mom is single the sideways glances and whispered conversations are so obvious 
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What really breaks my heart is hearing young Christian guys say they’d never date a single mom because they don’t want ‘someone else’s baggage,’ as if these amazing women and their children are somehow less valuable in God’s eyes. The irony is that some of the strongest faith warriors I know are single moms who’ve walked through fire and come out refined 
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Their testimonies of God’s redemption and grace put my comfortable Christian upbringing to shame every single time.
I really appreciate you sharing this. As someone who’s been in Christian dating circles for a while, I’ve noticed this tendency too, and it honestly breaks my heart.
What gets me is how we sometimes forget that everyone’s faith journey is unique. I’ve seen single moms who have the most incredible testimonies of transformation. Their faith and the grace they’ve experienced have made them some of the strongest Christians I know. Yet they’re somehow made to feel ‘less than’ in dating situations.
I truly believe that when we’re looking for a partner, what should matter most are shared beliefs, values, and commitment to following Christ together. Having children from a previous relationship doesn’t diminish someone’s spiritual worth or their potential as a partner. If anything, I’ve found that many single moms bring incredible depth, maturity, and faith to relationships precisely because of what they’ve walked through.
I’ve been trying to be more intentional about finding communities and groups that actually embrace and support single moms rather than judge them. We need more spaces where people are celebrated for who they are in Christ today, not constantly reminded of their past. That’s what grace is all about, right?
I once tried joining a singles group at church, hoping it would be a supportive environment. Instead, I felt like Martha was told she had chosen the lesser portion; some members subtly implied I should have prioritized marriage over my career, as if I had buried my talents in the sand rather than multiplying them in the marketplace.
Like the one sheep who wandered from the ninety-nine, I felt even more isolated among those who were supposed to be my flock. It was a tough experience, but it taught me the importance of finding a community that, like the Good Samaritan, truly understands and respects the journey of a traveler on a different road.
You know what’s really sad? I’ve noticed so many single mamas at church who are super scared to even mention they have kids when meeting new people because they think everyone will judge them right away 
It’s like they feel they have to hide this beautiful part of their life just to avoid those mean looks or getting left out of group dinners but hello, God made families in all different shapes and sizes! We should be celebrating these strong women who are doing double duty, not making them feel like they need to wear an invisibility cloak 