As a single Christian woman, I’ve learned that seeking marriage from a place of loneliness can lead us to compromise our standards and settle for relationships that don’t align with God’s plan. I’ve been guilty of stalking potential matches on social media and creating elaborate “signs from God” to justify my attraction to someone who wasn’t right for me.
Really though, I know when we’re putting our love and trust in Christ first, we can approach dating with clarity and discernment rather than desperation.
Finding wholeness in God allows us to recognize the difference between emotional neediness and genuine spiritual connection with a potential spouse. And ladies (and gents), let’s be honest. Waiting on God’s timing while staying pure isn’t (always) easy, but it’s so worth it to trust His blueprint for love and marriage rather than trying to force our timeline as some secular advice would have us do.
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This was a great watch.
I’ve found such truth in Proverbs 19:14: ‘Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.’ Like you, I’ve learned that trying to force relationships from loneliness only leads to settling for less than God’s best, and I’ve had to catch myself creating those ‘signs from God’ too!
Thank you for sharing, it’s always nice to hear from people who are going through the same problems.
I’m trying to trust that focusing on my relationship with God first will help guide me toward the right person at the right time.
I love how you mentioned finding wholeness in God first. It’s so true that when we’re content in Christ, we can approach dating with clarity instead of desperately trying to interpret every little interaction as a ‘sign from above’ (guilty as charged! ).
