What are the signs God is restoring your marriage? Mine has got better recently and I think God is working on our behalf to make our love deeper.
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If youâre seeing what I saw, take the recent improvement as Godâs kindness.
The sign was loyalty when my spouse wasnât around to hear it. I started talking about them to friends as someone I meant to stay with. Around then we also started making small plans, like a short trip or a shared goal and my prayers shifted too. Mostly I asked God to deal with my own resentment.
Neither of us needed to win anymore. My spouse and I both started owning our part and most of our old arguments died off. Softer hearts on both sides.
The biggest sign is that you both feel closer to God as well as closer to each other. Obviously, things will be better between you, but if your faith feels stronger, thatâs how you know it was through Him.
Itâs hard to keep an old argument alive once neither of you needs to win anymore. My spouse and I saw the same softening.
My pride took a beating at first, which was probably the point. Fewer old arguments and softer hearts though.
Winning stops being the goal and pride doesnât have much to hold onto, that leaves room for grace. Repentance doesnât wait for the other person to go first.
We used to have the same fights over and over (three or four of them, like clockwork) and somewhere along the way we both stopped keeping score. Then one night it hit me that weâd gone weeks without either of us trying to prove a point.
For years I thought love meant flowers and date nights. Once I quit expecting my husband to fill a cup only Jesus could fill I finally started noticing the love that had been there all along.
He goes to work every morning for us and thatâs love, I pour myself into our kids and our home and thatâs love too.
If youâre both starting to pick up on how the other one shows love, that sounds like God at work.
My husband would fix my car and clean the gutters, and I kept wondering why he never said anything sweet. Meanwhile, I was writing him notes he barely noticed.
He started telling me what he loved about me, and I started noticing the gutters.
All that work around the house was his way of saying âI love youâ the whole time.
Praying with you, friend. Glad things have been better between you two lately.
Iâll be asking God to keep working on it and to deepen that love.
My husband showed love by fixing things around the house and handling the bills but what I needed was for him to sit down and talk. He felt the same way about my notes and texts⌠our counselor called them love languages.
If things are getting better watch whether youâre starting to speak each otherâs language a little more. That felt like Godâs hand to me.
Pick a quiet evening and ask something like, âTell me about your relationship with your dad. What did you love most about it that youâd want our son to feel too?â Getting curious about each other is what helped us.
Youâll learn a lot about what your spouse cares about deep down.
Your expectations change. If the improvement feels like two people choosing each other again I think thatâs often God at work, the marriage becomes a promise you keep to each other and to Him.
âWhen thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay itâ (Ecclesiastes 5:4 KJV).
Praying for you both. Glad to hear yours is getting better.
Ours has been turning a corner lately too, thank God. Hoping He finishes what He started in both our marriages.
For us the sign was when we started laughing again. The dumb inside jokes from when we were dating popped up out of nowhere. He also started asking about my day and waiting for the answer.
We both started checking in on each otherâs stress and listening, that was one clear sign for us and our evenings felt lighter. Talking about what we were each reading in scripture on our own brought us closer too.
God shows up in ordinary stuff like that.
At one point my spouse told me, âTake the time you need to trust me again.â That was after hidden spending wrecked the trust between us.
We went through the accounts together with a Christian counselor until we had a budget neither of us had to guess about, and being able to ask uncomfortable questions and get real answers helped.
So glad youâre seeing good changes! Watch whether either of you can bring up a concern without bracing for how the other will react, real peace feels safe for both of you.